From this list you can click to view our members full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. Move on and dont look back you deserve better then that some times broken glass need to stay broke dont try to fix it sweep it up and throw it away GOD is gonna put your soul mate right in front of you bless you and Carrie on you dont need that to be in contact in front of your children.its her lost dont take her back eitherthen she win. I cannot tell you how many exs I have that say they never believed I would ever leave. He said he didnt want it to escalate so he left. I cried out to him and said, Why are you leaving!? He wants to be there for me, still my bes friend and has so much respect for me. I have not moved for 2 days I cant stop thinking is she better then me? But I still love her, more than those words could ever describe. As woman we can try so hard and bend over backwards. How are things going now? Usually it is a combination of both, dont you think? Im done. Seems life will continue and I appreciate the hope you have instilled through sharing the stories you have all provided. He said he filed for divorce on April 14. Turns out it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Scharnett-King warns this rarely works out. And if you cant forgive him, it might be time for you to walk away from this relationship completely because this isnt a good place for anyone to be in. He also had a cop come stand by when he got his stuff from the house . I always thought our love for each other would conquer all, but I was sadly mistaken. I wish you all the best finding the new you and someone who loves you for who you really are!! Except for Christs love, there is none here on earth. If children are involved, people in your network can offer as surrogate caretakers for your kids so that you can have some time to heal and recover from the hurt.. I dont know. You might have understandable reasons to be mentally composing your packing list. Life can throw some major challenges your way. No point in keeping contact with me. 6. My husband of 5 yrs n partner of 8 yrs cheated. When my wife announced that she was leaving, I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I now tell her I wont come over anymore and space away for her when she wont even consider spending even an hour of her time with us. we moved out with each other when she was 17 and I was 22. He basically told me he was just doung the right thing when I asked why he married me (I got pregnant before we were married) and judging by his behavior I see that he was definately acting like he was unhappy and just married me to do the right thing. May God bless us with someone who really loves us and cares about us. He was mean, angry and a totally crazy. This was a choice she made and didnt care about you or your feelings or your child for that matter. In march my fiancee left after a 4 year relationship after an argument. Ill never forget the date. My husbands sister just got served with divorce papers today Please help me with the divorce decision please. Coping with the end of a relationship can be difficult on many levels. Perhaps your husband has a personality disorder. Thank you for posting this article. All rights reserved. Been engaged for the last 6 years and my fianc kind of held off getting married for some time. If you have low self-esteem, your man might lose respect for you and feel like he doesnt honor you anymore. I am sitting in my home with four dogs and a cat while she is in another state confused and telling me she is no longer in love with me. Shortly after her I reconnected, she was diagnosed with cancer within the walls of her throat. I thought everything was going well, we were hitting on better than ever, having more fun talking more, I felt confident things were going well as he told me they were. Looking for some advise,please. Have you thought about maybe having the teacher of your oldest daughter call DYFS? My Husband Left Me After Nine Years And Will Not Talk To Me They had lunch once a month. You can imagine how amazed I was at this concept coming from a male (not being sexist or anything!). If Your Spouse Says These 9 Things, Your Marriage May Be In Trouble She sounds like shes crazy now. Its all I can think about and its eating away at me. The answer is how can we make you happy and ease your feelings. Say, "I apologize for being disrespectful when I". Well she met me and and my legs were shaking really bad while I was talking to my wife about what I found and showed her. I come from a family of strong people. He would tell me no babe stop tripping and l really started thinking l was tripping. While these may be the reasons someone gives for leaving a relationship, these do not address the real reasons why someone normally leaves a relationship. I have been with my husband for 14 years.13 of them married. . You have known him for a week and you invite him into my bed with our children and you get suspiciously soo tired your eyes are rolling to the back of your head??? Im so confused and conflicted. everyday i see her in college she will be busy with someother boys so kindly assist me, how to move on without her. hi m Jesika m only 20 yrs old n my boyfriend which turns about 34 yrs who is already got married n divorced. I should acknowledge I don't know the details. Carrie and Al are actively seeking help and support. If you loved me he wouldnt of left me. And I want you to know that its not impossible. My actually became a Judge in another County. Now he is living with his parents. She then admitted to a 7 month emotional affair with this guy at work. help me please. I did everything I could and I was under the impression that things were improving as the passion from her appeared to return. If he can just walk no strings attached then I dont want him back. Any advice? He would always say. She tells me she is not sure who she wants to be with. I am starting to realize no matter how many of her fav mags I buy her or if I bring her flowers or chocolate cupcakes for treats constantly, she will barely even notice let alone understand how hard it is for me to choke it back and make that kind of effort again. To the spouse who wants out . I beg you to take me from here: Spousal abandonment and the experience of separation in flight from persecution. Trent Shelton on Facebook is a great motivational speaker. After days of denying a relationship he finally admitted he had met her just over a month ago and they were seeing each other. Best! Then my wife was charged with felonies 2 for fraud and 1 for forgery.. in 2015 she switch to alcohol now she has driven me and our kids out of the house to my parents I am biblical and believe I cannot get a divorce because what the Bible says. I dont know how you rip it apart and then walk away like nothings wrong. Of your. I know this awful feeling so well. This is my 2nd failed marriage. I guess working 2 jobs and taking care of the kids and the house. Living is not living unless you are truly living, being respected and happy. Rather than an excess of painful emotion, it was the lack of pain, the lack of feeling, that was the . I have remained respectful and kind throughout while going in the car to have my meltdowns. My job prevented me from being at 4 treatments. Or when it is convenient. But really, act like your all shocked and surprised? How he just had a change of heart with no care in the world. Needless to say that this same man left and is livng with someone else (who I believe is his ex). It is amazing how they completely changed. I thought we had a happy life but apparently I did not have a happy wife.she never told me anything, never discussed it or mentioned it. Uncle in Illinois for a few weeks. Now, he took us yesterday to a amusement park and it started off fun, but, we had a discussion saying that he would take the kids to the waterpark area and i asked how long would they be there? Remember that God doesnt give us more than we can handle-and he must think that you can handle a lot. The same thing happened to me after an argument a few days prior, my husband said it was over. Please open up and share so others can help you. He would pick on me for everything in front of the kids. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. On Valentines day, she decided to tell me she doesnt love me and has in fact hated me for the last 15 years, though showed no signs of it. I just want to know what people think, and if anything would help. Who locks their 3 year old out in the place with your bedroom door locked and not answering the child cry until the next morning when your mother shows up with your older child because you cant watch her overnight anymore and really dont watch the other one. And how did you and her cope with that? Christy, you just summed up my life since December. Respect for you and the marriage: The narcissist will side with others against you, talk behind your back about you, and all the while smile like a Cheshire cat at you. I feel so alone, so forgotten, and it some respects even used a little. Its not fair. The morning came and he started screaming at me. When I have been upset and called to to him he has been very cold and mean.telling me he hated being in a relationship with hated being a family and so on. Whats the message? She doesnt call for two days. Ive loved my partner for 27 years and still do. My wife of 20 years asked me to move out 33 days ago we have 3 kids together two boys 6 and 19 and a 13 year old girl. I also lost my mother nine months ago. I just want some kind of advice i feel like there is no reason to live anymore Husband suffeing depression has left me - netmums.com Trying to force him to love you again is a waste of time because thats not how love works. To the outside world, Emme lived a charmed life. Needless to say, I reminded him of the timing he set up and we did not get married. I remained strong on the outside and everyone asked how I kept it together, but that doesnt mean it wasnt extremely difficult and the most traumatic experience in my life. Lost 6 kg. Being a husband and a dad every day. I found out last Friday (after him denying it over and over) that he is having an affair. She never wanted to make it more difficult then it already was for her children. But dont torture yourself. There's a good chance that they'll start withdrawing from life in general by avoiding friends and family . Love hurts. We share same breathe. I said that is fine, i am done with always fighting with you. See a priest. There are always ways and things to try other than giving up. Its time to accept that forgiveness and love dont have corners or boundaries. And this is incredibly helpful because it gives people a chance to talk about what they have been through and figure out a way to fix it in the future. Six months that I have been experiencing the utmost happiness, while also experiencing the most gut-wrenching guilt. His health issues are not serious. A few days prior she said she reflected and love me and wanted me but then he showed up. Put my foot down and told her if she ditches us again that weekend I would be done. He also uses the excuse that my 2 sons, not his btw, are too much for him to handle. Only God can fix this mess. Dont fall for it ! She spent a few nights at his place and on new years eve she drove him home and spent the night. My wife of 14 total, 11 married just is done. Right now you need to make the correct decisions for you and only you. Go out with my friends. I said yes and by the way I filed for divorce. Just know you are not alone. But nope we ship off to my place and to my horror she wont answer the phones all weekend which really catches me off guard, I thought we were doing something here. How can we say such things to each other, and then she goes away with him? Please contact us if you have any questions. Problems arise when you leave the house early, barely speaking to or connecting with your wife before you dash out the door. He says he loves me very much but is not in love with me I am devastated feel like Im dying inside. Just move through it, let your emotions flow freely, and dont let anyone make you feel like less of a person for feeling this way. Trust me, youll find your comfort in Jesus. Still, up until a week ago, she said she loved me, loves being with me and having a family etc. Also my ex husband stole 25k. Reading these comments has made me feel less alone and I want to thank you all for sharing. Now, your one and only is gone and you're left sitting wondering where everything went wrong and why he left. Any youths on how to cope welcome. And he just does not get it. He probably misses the way things used to be. In fact I think I hate him more now than I did then. So basically now I am with my 6 yr old no way of supporting anything he says he will help me a bit for a month. He worked days. absolutely the truth you cant endure such a tremendous heart ache without the love of Jesus and fully relying on his help to know Christ is the greatest gift on this earth in spite of all of our heartaches and trials and tribulations my husband left me in October of 2014 without of word took all of our money the car is everything personal belongings everything I came home to nothing and I dont care about the the world of goods my heart ached so terriblyworse than a death (my son died) pure disasterunable to withstand the pain in my heart although I was saved I guess I wasnt fully trusting the Lord at that moment I went outside of my secluded house in the middle of cornfields to hang myself and I took pills a lot (prescription) and I drank a bottle of whiskey in one drink I should have clearly died but did not! Hi Wendy, I was a bit like you a year ago, had so much to reflect over I didnt know where to start . emails me talks to me like these things happen. If he doesnt get a rise out of me, he becomes enraged and starts drama then tries to blame it on me. Our process took 3 months but shes ready to move on and man, we just have to as well. This is often the most painful reason for a leaving, but it's also sometimes the easiest to accept. Well she was mixing high doses of Vicodin and Soma pills . Im rattling round the house all alone, crying and pleading all nigt for my wife to come home, I love her so much, She never told me what I was doing wrong.